Considering wedding gift registry pros and cons for the modern day bride makes practical and financial sense. Although gift-giving at weddings is as ancient as the concept of marriage itself, the first Gift Registry was actually started by Chicago Department Store Marshall Field’s in 1924.
Stigmas around Gift Registries and Wishing Wells have long since changed, however you still need to consider all your guests and your personal needs before committing to a registry (or not).
Remember giving gifts as opposed to money (whether through a registry or not) is a way for guests to wish newlyweds the best start to married life.
Every time you use or see an item that was gifted to you at your wedding, it will incite happy memories of your wedding day, and nostalgic thoughts of the guest who gifted it to you..
5 Popular Types of Wedding Gift Registries
There are five main types of Wedding Gift Registries. Each individual company will have their own pros and cons, but it’s important to realise the breadth of registry options available to you, and to investigate options that appeal to you thoroughly before signing up.
- Department Store/Chain Store/Online Store Registries
- Honeymoon Registry
- Home Registry
- Charity Registry
- Unique Registries: are for special interests such as bottlenotes.com wine registry.
Wedding Gift Registry Pros
♥ Most guests much prefer giving a gift over money.
♥ You can choose items that would otherwise be out of your price range.
♥ You will get exactly what you want or need rather than items you are never going to use but feel obligated to keep.
♥ Online registries allow guests to shop when convenient and don’t have to worry about lugging cumbersome items with them in their suitcase if travelling.
♥ Guests feel obligated to give you something, so if you are adamant about “no gifts” a charity registry is a perfect way to circumvent this common problem.
Wedding Gift Registry Cons
♥ Almost all registries will either charge you fees or set a minimum spend to use their service. Many also use pay pal to process your monetary gifts which means more fees again.
♥ You can’t bank on everything on your list being purchased, which you must take into account if having a small wedding and a registry with minimum spends.
♥ Many guests prefer you not know the dollar value of their gift.
♥ Guests who leave selecting a gift to the last minute may only be left with a choice of big ticket items if you don’t update your registry along the way.
♥ Traditional Gift Registries that are not online make it difficult for out of town guests to make a selection. Inversely, non tech-savvy guests may struggle purchasing a gift through an online registry.
DIY Wedding Registry
If you would prefer cash to purchase select items and services yourselves without having to pay fees to a registry it might be worthwhile to create and manage your own Gift Registry.
- Create a list (preferably with photos) of specific items you will be purchasing eg: doors, dishwasher, hotel, snorkelling trip etc, and their cost and forward to guests. A personalised wedding website or social media are marvellous for this.
- Open a no fee bank account and have your guests “purchase a gift” by depositing money into your account with their name and title of item in the description field.
- If you’re concerned about guests theoretically purchasing the same gift (even though it’s actually just cash), you can assign a family member or friend to keep track and inform guests what’s already purchased. This is the perfect role for someone who wants to be involved in your wedding, but you’re struggling to find a role for (long distance is ok too).
Top Wedding Registry Tips
- Always read the fine print and ask about fees, minimum spends, delivery and cancellations or duplicate purchases.
- Make guests feel that use of the registry is for their (and your convenience), but not essential.
- Ensure your registry covers a wide variety of price points to avoid looking greedy and ostracising less financially sound guests.
- Thank you cards for gifts should be sent within 3 months of your wedding.
Wedding Gift Registry Pros and Cons Summary
Stigmas around Gift Registries have long since changed, however you still need to be mindful of all your guests and your personal needs before committing to a registry. Considering wedding gift registry pros and cons for the modern day bride makes practical and financial sense.